If meditation feels like work you are trying too hard.
If you try to make your mind empty or quiet it is like trying to make yourself fall asleep. Chances are you end up more awake. The same is generally true for meditation. If you try to push the thoughts out of your mind and make your mind quiet or blank, it will probably respond with an abundance of thoughts pouring from and overfilling your head.Forget about how well you can stay focused, and about what's supposed to happen when you meditate, and simply accept whatever does happen. So let the thoughts and to your mind and then let them go as if they were just passing by.
Lots of thoughts and meditation are often caused by lots of stress being released.
Stress is stored in your system as toxins and negative energy. The negative energy is cleared from your system and it tends to take form of thoughts running through the mind. When a particular matter that has been the cause of stress is fully released, your system is in the clear, allowing you to go deeper, and experience meditations with less thoughts. This process is somewhat cyclic, half of the cycle is 1 of clearing, during which there are more thoughts. The other half is one of clarity and which there are less thoughts and your meditation. The time frame of these Cycles can vary widely, from hours, to days, to weeks. The bottom line is that the release of stress, and the resulting of thoughts are cleared allowing deeper, quieter meditations. So, if you find the first time you meditate you have more thoughts fly through your mind then not this is normal, your mind is releasing and letting go of stress. That is a good thing. Meditation clears away stored up stress and physical emotional toxins. A detox of the mind. If you find that you are releasing these toxins in your meditation, or outside of meditation, be aware that a valuable healing process is occurring and it will pass shortly, leaving you free of these limiting, negative Energies.
How do you recognize this?
You may experience some form of negativity, according to the type of stress or toxins you are releasing. If it is physically related, you may feel a bit tired or physically off. If it is emotionally related you may experience some of the feelings or memories associated with the toxins you are releasing. If this should occur, it is important to continue with your regular meditation schedule, as this facilitates in the clearing process. Unfortunately though, the subtle and unusual discomfort resulting from this process tends to cause people to back away from meditating. If you approach meditation with the mindset of success versus failure, chances are we'll bring up feelings of frustration if it seems like you are not getting anywhere. If meditation leads to frustration then it won't take long before you begin to avoid it. The remedy is to put aside all expectations of getting somewhere and getting it right. Have no expectations.
Your mind will calm down, and at times your thoughts will subside altogether. This takes less effort than you think. That is what the various methods are for, so take a few different approaches and find the one that best suits you. The more you learn to trust this method, and the less that you try to make it happen, the more often and easily you will experience your mind becoming quiet.
The discomfort of suddenly being alone with one's thoughts.
Many have never spent time alone with their thoughts, and at first may find them uncomfortable or disconcerting. Everyone's thoughts are a mix between positive and negative, and most of us can give rise to some pretty weird ones.
It may take a little time to get used to the strange things your mind is capable of spawning. But after meditating for a while, you will learn to accept whatever thoughts may arise and let them go.
Tension results from holding on, while relaxation is the result of Letting Go. Letting go of effort and control. Within you, and within all of us, are two opposite forces. An evolutionary Force which pulls us forward, gently urging us to grow into a more fulfilled state, and an opposing Force which resists growth and change subletting us to stay where we are. Whenever we begin to do something that will accelerate our growth, that resistant Force kicks in. Meditation is such a powerful agent of growth and change that beginning to meditate nearly always stirs up this inner resistance. Letting Go allows the energy of well-being to flow freely through you, and the flow of this energy elevates your state of consciousness.
Initially, you may have a tendency to pull back when you find yourself letting go to a deeper State. This is natural at first, as it can feel like you are falling into an unfamiliar place, which can be a bit scary until you get used to it. But once you realize what a pleasant place it can take you too, Letting Go becomes much easier. So if at any time in your meditation you feel as though you are falling, or as though you are slipping into a sleep like or dreamlike place, allow this to happen.
Well some meditators experience varying degrees of inner peace and relaxation right out the gate, others do not notice much happen it all when they first begin to meditate. If you do not experience immediate results, try not to become discouraged and quit. If you stay with it, eventually most likely before long you will begin to experience more relaxation and inner peace when you meditate.
This Force generally works on an unconscious level, from which generates feelings of resistance when it is time to meditate, or devises a variety of creative ways to avoid meditating. These are both Natural Forces, I suggest you try to follow the positive evolutionary Force.
Something in order to meditate, you must sit in a specific disciplined way, Lotus posture on the floor, not leaning back against anything Etc. Although it is good for your spine to be straight, the rest is really not necessary. Sitting in a comfortable chair, leaning against the back or sitting cross-legged on a bed, leaning back against a pillow propped up against a wall or headboard even if you're lying on your back is fine. Just be comfortable if you fall asleep during your meditation that is okay as well. Your body is in need of the rest.
Know what meditations works for you.
What type of meditation works for you, find when during the day that works for you is it morning or afternoon or evening. Do you like guided, silent, music? Do you need something to focus on but do not like guided? Light a candle and watch the flame. This could be a process and that is ok, it is perfect actually, because you are allowing yourself to be fully yourself and you are supporting yourself in your journey. How beautiful!
And some methods you may use one deep breath to begin. When you are relaxed your breathing will tend to be easy and natural. So go with your body's natural state of breathing. The only time you should breath in a specific manner is when you are doing meditations on breathing.
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